Kendra’s Weekly Tips – Relationship Style

I’m not really big on Valentine’s Day (in fact, I have told my fiance that I will have to hurt him if he acknowledges it!) but I wrote up these tips a few weeks ago and now is as good a time as any to post them!

My top 5 tips for having a long and healthy relationship.

1) Talk.

2) Talk.

3) Talk.

4) Talk.

5) Seriously? Talk. Yes. When my friends come to me to bitch about their relationships (or when I read things in cosmo), I get sooo frustrated. So many times people tell me about how they don’t like this or that about their relationship, their life, their sex lives, their partner and don’t know what to do about it. I always ask, “Have you talked to X about it.” “No.” Um what?! TALK people. I tell my fiance pretty much everything. If I’m annoyed by something he’s doing, he knows it. If there’s something I think we need to fix in our relationship, I tell him. If he’s not paying enough attention to me, I tell him. If I don’t feel like kissing or cuddling, he knows. If I want more of something from him, I tell him.

No matter what is on my mind about our relationship, or myself or him…I tell him. We’ve had sooo many ups and downs. Being in a long distance relationship for 6.5 years is so hard, and I’ve always been honest about when I doubted us, or wasn’t getting enough from him. We almost never fight. We argue sometimes, and yes I get upset with him (constantly, but it fades within minutes usually), but if one or the other of us doesn’t like something…we just TALK.

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  1. Posted 02/14/2011 at 11:07 am | Permalink

    I totally agree. Jen and I share and talk about EVERYTHING and we always have. Communication is very important to us. Being in a long distance relationship for four years met that talking was on the phone and online. Now it’s face-to-face! And like you two, we honestly never fight. Some people roll their eyes at that, but it’s true. We are way too close and know each other too well for that!

  2. Posted 02/14/2011 at 3:42 pm | Permalink

    Yup! Communication is actually the biggest lesson Neil has taught me. I came into our relationship with virtually no communication skills and how I have quite the little toolbox. :)

    I completely agree, K. Communication (about the big things and the little things alike) is key – and fun! My best days are when Neil and I just chat for hours. :)

    (We don’t fight either. Get a little pissy sometimes, but never fight.)

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