I’m not really big on Valentine’s Day (in fact, I have told my fiance that I will have to hurt him if he acknowledges it!) but I wrote up these tips a few weeks ago and now is as good a time as any to post them!
My top 5 tips for having a long and healthy relationship.
5) Seriously? Talk. Yes. When my friends come to me to bitch about their relationships (or when I read things in cosmo), I get sooo frustrated. So many times people tell me about how they don’t like this or that about their relationship, their life, their sex lives, their partner and don’t know what to do about it. I always ask, “Have you talked to X about it.” “No.” Um what?! TALK people. I tell my fiance pretty much everything. If I’m annoyed by something he’s doing, he knows it. If there’s something I think we need to fix in our relationship, I tell him. If he’s not paying enough attention to me, I tell him. If I don’t feel like kissing or cuddling, he knows. If I want more of something from him, I tell him.
No matter what is on my mind about our relationship, or myself or him…I tell him. We’ve had sooo many ups and downs. Being in a long distance relationship for 6.5 years is so hard, and I’ve always been honest about when I doubted us, or wasn’t getting enough from him. We almost never fight. We argue sometimes, and yes I get upset with him (constantly, but it fades within minutes usually), but if one or the other of us doesn’t like something…we just TALK.