Comments on: I Took Myself on a Date

By: Kendra Kantor

Kendra Kantor — Thu, 12 Jul 2012 19:14:12 +0000

Oh thank you!
I think it’s so so important to be honest and open about mental illnesses. One because the stigmatized about them in society makes it difficult for people (especially teens) to open up and feel okay with sharing about it. Two because I think it’s important for the healing process to write and be truthful about it.
I hope you blog about it sometime and that it helps you!

By: Kendra Kantor

Kendra Kantor — Thu, 12 Jul 2012 19:12:25 +0000

Thanks so much for commenting!
People watching is so fun, especially in a big city. I miss Boston for so many reasons but that’s def one of them!
My little boy was born in April too!! We should talk more and lament about sleepless nights and adorable faces haha
Fortunately , my fiance is great about taking the baby whenever I need him to and we live with my parents and my mom watches him often as well.

I hope you find your “thing”! I have a lot of them and that’s kind of my problem. I’m currently trying to “find myself” and figure out what I want with life and who I am, it’s a challenge but getting out of the house and being alone is hard for me but something that I really need to do.

Good luck!

By: Molly @ Wicked Cheap

Molly @ Wicked Cheap — Thu, 12 Jul 2012 18:06:27 +0000

Kendra,
I just found your blog through the introductions on Revolutionize Her and I wanted to commend you for your honesty and openness. You took a great step going out by yourself. I’ve dealt with depression and anxiety myself for years, though never openly blogged about it. This may have changed my mind! Thanks!

By: Janae

Janae — Thu, 12 Jul 2012 06:24:11 +0000

That sounds like a lovely day! I used to go out by myself on purpose. I enjoyed people-watching, wondering what others thought of me if they were people-watching me, and also to just have some quiet time in public. I think it was actually quite therapeutic. I just had a baby in April, so it’s difficult for me to have any time like that these days. It’s such a chore to get dressed or put on makeup half the time, and even more so when I do have errands to run and have to take my son with me. However, once I get out the door, it’s so much easier. It’s just getting my feet outside that’s the hardest part usually. I love going grocery shopping with my son strapped in his carseat setting on the shopping cart. I love showing him off, because everyone loves babies. I can talk to myself in public and no one thinks I’m nuts because it looks like I’m just talking to him. But I do miss when it was simple–no diaper bag, no heavy baby in a car seat, no times I have to stop to nurse or change a diaper, no specific order of things (like do I put the baby in the car and then return the shopping cart, do I leave the shopping cart in the middle of parking lot because the baby is in the car already, or do I attempt to park the shopping cart and carry all of the groceries AND the baby all to the car at once?)

My husband told me recently that he wants me to find my “thing.” His is surfing. I’ll go with him sometimes, but it’s what he does each week to keep himself balanced. He told me to find something like that for myself, and he’d take the baby so that I could do it each week. I’m so thrilled about it that I can’t decide what to do! I might settle on cycling. I might go for some kind of art class. I don’t know, but just thinking about it makes me feel like I can breathe better. You might try to do that too–find one thing that gets you out of the house so you can have some time to open your mind and remember why it’s so good to be alive, and do it once every week. It sounds like what you did today could be the start of something great. I hope you keep it up, because I really enjoyed reading your writing today. <3