You’ve all heard the popular phrase, “Honesty is the best policy.”
You heard it growing up when your parents wanted the truth or your teachers needed to know who started a fight.
You’ve heard it in dating advice and from your therapist.
Today, I want to talk about why it really, truly is the best policy for your mental health wellness.
You have depression, anxiety, ptsd, bipolar…
You lost your job, your boyfriend dumped you…
But you can’t or won’t admit that something is wrong and you need help.
You need to be honest with yourself above anything else to be able to live the life you need.
You sit at home in your pjs, eating ice cream and feeling pathetic (I’ve been there!)
You don’t want to wake up in the morning and hit snooze over and over again (Sometimes, I let my son play in his bed or climb all over me for about a half hour before deciding I need to get up and face the day).
You go to your mundane 9-5 job and hate it.
Yet, you still won’t be honest with yourself about why you are feeling this why or why you need a change or even what you really want your life to look like.
Until you sit yourself down for a heart-to-heart and say, “Listen girl, something is wrong here and we need to fucking fix it.” You won’t get very far in your mental health wellness journey. You’ll be stuck in that dead-end job, you’ll be stuck living life wishing you felt different or you looked different or your days were not what they are.
And then, once you finally finally tell yourself you need help or shit needs to change…
You need to keep showing up to yourself.
Make it a practice.
Sit down with yourself everyday for a heart-to-heart, write it out, record it…whatever you need to do to get to the truth, you do it. It’s not going to be easy. It’s often going to create or bring up triggers you don’t want to deal with, but you need to deal with them. If the conversations you have with yourself cause you to panic, to feel depressed or overwhelmed or ready to run…then that’s a problem and it needs to be addressed. Those feelings are showing you that something in your life isn’t working.
Share: Have you learned about being honest with yourself yet? Do you make it a daily or weekly practice to sit yourself down and hash out all you really need to know?
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