Your Journey to Recovery Can Be Rewarding (plus, get a signed copy of my new book!)

Your Journey to Recovery Can Be Rewarding (plus, get a signed copy of my new book!) by Kendra Kantor

Your journey to recovery will be a lot of work.

It will be hard. It will take work and effort and lots of tears and lots of failures before you succeed (and then a few more failures). Your journey will be swathed in doubt and pain. You will have days you want to hide and days you want to give up and days you wake up and say “Hell yeah! I’m doing awesome!”

There are a lot of paths on your journey, a lot of ways to get where you want. Therapy, medication, exercise, self reflection, religion, art, meditation.

There are a lot of things to try to reach your wellness goals. A lot of values to nurture.

I’ll tell you a secret, once you get passed some of the yucky hard stuff…your journey can be fun and rewarding in ways you never thought possible.

Once I was on the proper medication and seeing a therapist I liked more regularly, it took me about a year to get to a place where my journey to recovery become more fun and more rewarding. It seems like such a contradiction to write that, honestly. How can it be fun to heal? How can it be rewarding to improve your mental health? Because at some point in all of our journeys, we get to a point where life is okay-ish. You aren’t hiding in bed anymore, you are making progress. You can see the possibility of success but maybe you still have a few triggers or your self esteem needs work.

For me, I was making such huge progress and while I still needed outside support and help, near the end of 2013, I was at a place where I could focus on fun things. I wasn’t so much wrapped up in trying not to cry or trying to hold my panic attacks back so my toddler didn’t see me break down everyday. I was able to leave the house, I was able to look around me and see the beauty again.

So I started working on my self esteem. It sounds yucky and hard, and some parts were. But I did a lot of art, a lot of soul searching and I’ve been celebrating such mundane things about myself. I have a daily(ish) art habit that I’ve created to facilitate my wellness and I couldn’t be more pleased with the rewards I’ve gotten. I have pages and pages and books filled now, when I can’t remember the last time I worked in my journal before now. I have mantras and positive words to look back on to bolster my self esteem and cheer me up when I’m having a low day.

You could start your own art habit.
Take up yoga.
Write a book.
Use photography as a mindfulness practice.
Go shopping for some new clothes!
Hang out with friends again, renew old connections or make some new ones.
Go camping.
Explore some alternative healing styles (reiki, chakra clearing, acupuncture, crystals…so much!)

There is never a right or wrong way to wander down your path to healing. These are my suggestions above. These things are fun and are rewarding because they will help you on your journey. Some give you a new sense of self, some will give you a cool end result (a finished novel, a new passion for fitness).

I’ve been through the hard parts and I’m sure over the course of my life, I’ll be there again. But at some point, this journey becomes more about self discovery and healing and less about surviving and that’s pretty damn cool.

♥Kendra

Click to Share in the Comments: What steps have you taken lately for your journey that have been fun? What can you do now to start feeling rewarded and enjoy your path to wellness?

ps- keep scrolling for some awesome news!

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Dear Self by Kendra Kantor

I want to share something very exciting with you today! I am a published poet! What?! This has been a life long dream and I am so happy to see it come to life. My new book is, “Dear Self: A Collection of Poems and Art”.

This collection of 30 poems and illustrations is a culmination of years of work and I am proud to be sharing it now. In November of 2013, I began work in a journal, creating poems, notes and words of wisdom written to myself. For the first time in years, or probably ever, I was making art and writing just for myself. I was creating with no intention of sharing my work everyday. I wasn’t creating for the praise of anyone but myself. It felt good and I was filled with freedom.

Once I decided to create a book out of my work, I went back through my older journals and realized that I had been doing these “Dear Self” type poems and notes for years without knowing it. It’s kind of funny how that works sometimes, isn’t it?

Dear will be released on June 10th, 2014! BUT WAIT!

Want to get signed copy of Dear Self plus an exclusive one of a kind artwork by Kendra?

If you purchase a copy, from me, before the official launch on June 10th, you’ll get:

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The Dear Self poetry book, signed by me (include your name and I’ll personalize it!)

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A one of a kind 5×7 artwork, made just for you, in a similar style to the pages in Dear Self

For only $50 you can get your personal art and exclusive signed copy of Dear Self!*




Cost of the pre-order includes: signed book, one of a kind artwork for $50 plus $6 shipping for USA, international will be added per zip code

 

Your artwork will be created on-demand, after you make your purchase. When purchasing you can pick to have a poem or a mantra/affirmation on your piece, or be surprised! Artwork will take around 5-7 days to create. All orders will begin shipping June 10th.

Click here to check out more sneak peaks inside the book, find tweet-ables and more!

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Do You Experience Increased Anxiety The Week Before Your Period?

Do You Experience Increased Anxiety The Week Before Your Period?  by Kendra Kantor

If you have an anxiety disorder, any other mental illness (or are a woman), do you experience increased anxiety the week before you get your period?

I know I do! So that means you are not alone and I went on a search to see what kinds of information I could find about this.

For me, this wasn’t something I had even noticed was happening until my anxiety disorder and panic attacks lessened. I’ve been doing really well for over 6 months now, well enough that I don’t have daily anxiety or weekly (or even monthly) panic attacks. I’ve tracked my menstrual cycle for about 3 years now (I use OvuView app on my Android phone) and over the last few months I’ve been noticing something….

When I start to get super anxious, in a way that seems irrational to how I’ve been managing and reacting lately, it kind of gives me a clue that something else is up. Like I said, my anxiety is manageable now but as an example, last weekend my husband and I were out shopping for sandals for our toddler for the summer. Totally normal, we had just gotten paid so there were no money anxieties coming up but there were 3 or 4 times I had to stop in the stores and breath through the tightness in my chest. I eventually had to say, “Okay, I need to go home now.” Because I just felt overwhelmed and unable to handle it.

As we were walking out of the store, I opened the OvuView app and saw I was on cycle day 25. Ding! Ding! Ding! I showed my husband and said, “This is why I’m being like this today!”

Menstruation leads to a number of hormonal changes that can cause physical and emotional effects that may contribute to anxiety. There is no single reason for this anxiety, but multiple factors probably are at work, says Charles Goodstein, MD, clinical professor of psychiatry at New York University Langone Medical Center.

Fluctuations in powerful hormones that regulate menstruation, such as estrogen and progesterone, can affect your appetite, digestion, and energy levels, all of which can, in turn, affect your mood. “This may have an impact on psychological functioning,” notes Dr. Goodstein. Additionally, women who have had difficult periods in the past, due to intense cramping or heavy bleeding, may worry about recurrent pain and discomfort prior to menstruation, and this can also cause added anxiety, says Goodstein. Via Everyday Health

It makes perfect sense to me, really. Most mental illnesses and anxieties stem from chemicals and hormones. Your menstrual cycle is all about fluctuating hormones! But it can be hard to find information about. I’ve seen a few articles talk about a specific type of PMS called PMS A(Anxiety) but I haven’t found that listed on any medical sites that I know. Some sights seem to lump it in with PMDD.

PMS associated anxiety does not get the coverage or publicity that the PMS associated depression and rage get but this anxiety can be debilitating and lead to panic attacks. Via The Period Vitamin

Hormonal anxiety, PMS anxiety, and menstrual anxiety are, of course, specific to women, and are often an exacerbation of a more formal anxiety problem such as generalized anxiety disorder or social anxiety disorder. Just as PMS and PMDD can make depression, migraines, and other conditions worse, they can also make anxiety and panic attacks worse. Via PMSComfort

The two above quotes are pulled from this article and this article and are the best resources I’ve found on this topic right now.

What can you do about this kind of anxiety?

I think the first step is to start tracking your menstrual cycle. There are all kinds of ways to do this and you can get super specific and check your cervical mucus or the angle of your cervix. That’s usually most helpful if you’re trying to conceive. All you really need is to start tracking when you get your actual period. Even if you aren’t super regular (I am not at all), you’ll get an average and you’ll get a feel for what it’s like around each week of your cycle. Get an app or just use a paper calender and start tracking. Knowledge is power. Once I noticed why my anxiety levels were higher, they decreased a bit. It didn’t go away completely, but knowing the hormonal reason behind it made me go easier on myself and understand what was happening.

Be extra kind to yourself the week(s) your anxiety worsen due to your cycle. If you are already on medication, keep taking it. But allow yourself some extra self care time, watch more tv than normal, eat some ice cream. Don’t push yourself to your limits if you don’t have to.

I’ll suggest keeping up on your exercise and eating healthy, but just like any mental illness, we can’t always do what the doctors say we “should”.

Look up some yoga for anxiety or yoga for pms.

Check out this article that talks about the different “types” of pms. It might help you figure out how best to address your symptoms in a more kind and productive way.

Update: I just listened to a podcast and wanted to share. Anxiety Slayer: Anxiety Made Worse by PMS

I hope PMS related anxiety and an increase in your anxiety disorder during your menstrual cycle is something that gets talked about more. It can be hard to find women with experiences or medical articles about this so I wanted to share some of what I’ve found and experienced.

♥Kendra

Share: What kind of symptoms do you get during PMS? Does your anxieties feel extra strong? Share your story below and let other women know they aren’t alone in their experiences!

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Check This Stuff Out V1

About a month ago, I started this feature that I was sending out directly to those on my exclusive email list. Why just to my list? Because I had this fear that it would look unprofessional posted on my blog. But that’s silly and I want to share all of these awesome things with everyone.

Welcome to the new monthly(ish) feature: “Check This Stuff Out!” It will be chuck full of inspiring, beautiful and interesting things I’ve found on my wanderings around the web. I hope you enjoy.

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I love finding unique art. Paint and film is great but when you think outside the box and use different mediums, it can be amazing. Check out Andrew Myer’s Portraits with Screws.

I’m all for being honest with our kids. 17 Lies We Need to Stop Teaching Our Girls About Sex. “14. Once you start having sex, you’re not allowed to say “stop.” You can change your mind at any time during sex, and your partner must respect that. It doesn’t matter if blue balls are real or not. Know that your voice must be heard.”

There are some great gems in this article: 6 Inspiring Women on Their Hardest Life Lessons. My favorite? “My hardest life lesson: Learning ultimate acceptance of myself, others and life circumstances for how they are, as opposed to how I expect or desire them to be.” from Andrea Cairella

“Mental illness is nothing to be ashamed of, but stigma and bias shame us all.”- Bill Clinton

Have you heard about Emily Jeffords?! I’m a wee bit obsessed with her paintings and I snatched up a set of mini prints that I am waiting on pins and needles to be delivered.

I love these kinds of stories. How photography helped a mama beat ppd, “I had unwittingly created for myself a support group of like-minded people all over the world,” Rachel says. “I was inspired by them, and we all helped each other get better and refine our own work.””

Get your tissues ready for this post, Life Lessons On What Really Matters from a Dying Man. “But two things he said that day, while moving in and out of drug-induced sleep, have shaped my life forever. The first was, “If I only I had ten more years, just think of all the good I could do.” And, the second was, “I feel sorry for you.”

Some Like a Bird stuff you might have missed:

-I wrote a guest post “Why My Mental Illnesses are Really a Blessing in Disguise” on The Pillow Fort.
“I know I will remember that all of the pain I’ve gone through had a purpose and for that I am grateful.”

-I am an introvert and I like it. I did an interview “Awesome Introverts Among Us” On the Conscious Introvert Success blog.
“Having a successful heart-based business means first and foremost following a path that you helps you, as the business owner, thrive.”

-Have you been to the lovely TWLOHA blog? I wrote: Dear New Mama Self: A letter about Postpartum Depression
“I know you feel like you are drowning in emotions right now; there’s so much guilt and fear. There are so many tears, so many feelings of wanting to run away, and there’s nothing I can say to make it stop right now. But I will tell you again, it will get better.”

♥Kendra

Share:Do you have any favorite links you want me to see? Share them in the comments below!

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